But when a 50-year-old woman marries a 20-year-old man, all hell breaks loose and society goes up in arms.
Society has come to accept that a man can marry a girl fit to be their daughter but for a woman to do that is unacceptable.
So, six years ago, she started dating studs in their 20s and 30s — and she hasn’t looked back.
“Younger guys tend to be more active, have less baggage,” says Soletti, an event planner who regularly hosts dating mixers.
“When you’re an ambitious woman, it’s very difficult — you either have to subsume what you wanna do for somebody else, or live with the struggle to fight your partner on top of business survival, and it’s a very unhealthy relationship,” says Nicole Wipp, a 45-year-old attorney and entrepreneur, who found a perfect match in her husband, Marcus Sutherland, a 33-year-old paramedic.
“Dating somebody younger than myself, there’s an acceptance of ambitious women — it’s more normalized.” They met at the University of Hawaii in November 2002, when she was a law student and he was a sophomore undergraduate.
“If she is fearful, insecure and doubting her merit, she will never be able to accept that her younger man loves her.” Winter adds that media reports about Demi Moore’s obsession with looking young are “the perfect example of how the ideal of youth and beauty can torture even the most lovely example of a modern-day woman.” The idea that one must maintain an illusion of youth to keep a younger partner is illogical. “It's an up-front buy that he's willing to accept, because he values the totality of who she is and what she brings to his life.” Talk about family planning.
Stories have been told of men who marry women 40 or even 50 years younger than them.
But society doesn’t bat an eyelid because that is perceived as ‘normal’.
Older men, it seems to me, are like gold dust on the dating scene right now.
From salt-and-pepper George Clooneys to silver-fox Harrison Fords, young women are swooning over smooth older men more than ever.